Dads, Moms and Children

Before I put this Leman book on the shelf, I want to make several more comments. Leman points out that Dads and Moms view their children differently. Moms view children as an extension of themselves. Leman states, "To a woman, when a man spends time with their children, he's spending time with her, because children are an extension of their mother." That means when her husband loves their children and spends quality time with them, she feels as if he is loving her too.

Dads have a different view of the children. Dads don't emotionally connect them to their mother. Dads see them as separate entities that sometimes compete with him for Mom's attention. Leman uses humor to make his point. He says, "Children can be pesty little buggers sometimes, and they can really get in the way of marital intimacy."

The point that Dr. Leman makes is that we must realize the role children play in Dad's life is different from the role they play in Mom's life. He goes on to say, "The day is coming that the kids will be gone. But your husband will remain. Don't lose your place in his heart."

Have a great day, Robin